i'm sorry when i posted this i was in error, you can connect to the server from the same machine you are hosting it from you just need to add another line in your subnet_athena with
subnet: 255.255.255.0:127.0.0.1:127.0.0.1
Yeah so it turns out they dont all have to be the WAN IP, just the ones that say so, it was a subnet_athena issue that was preveneting my connections coming in right and then the other problem was i was trying to connect to a server hosted on my computer from my computer, so i was trying to connect to my own WAN IP and that doesnt work i guess lol. But I was able to get others connected to the server i just cant connect locally with that setting.
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