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SOLVED
had to portforward
Clientinfo
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="euc-kr" ?>
<clientinfo>
<servicetype>korea</servicetype>
<servertype>sakray</servertype>
<connection>
<display>Radical Ragnarok Online</display>
<balloon>the balloon</balloon>
<desc>RadicalRO</desc>
<address>188.165.238.182</address>
<port>6900</port>
<version>26</version>
<langtype>1</langtype>
<registrationweb>flux.domain.com</registrationweb>
<aid>
<admin>25000000</admin>
</aid>
<loading>
<image>loadingscreen01.jpg</image>
</loading>
</connection>
</clientinfo>
Host IP 188/165.238.182
however im wondering could it also be that my ports arent forwarded correctly?
i checked the port 6900 ( client port )
and port 3306
but they cant be seen by canyouseeme.org...
could this be the main problem?
cause i tryed to use mysql notifier to startup the server and it says Refusing connections..
EDIT:
However when i use the cmd for runserver sql
it shows no problems with connecting to eachother > map> char > Login