thank you guys.but yesterday i managed to get it to work somehow, by improvising with what i downloaded.
i could not do it with either guides, because i lacked things. so then i improvised with another server files i got, from i duno where.and using
some of the files provided in the guide from this forum and the client from ratemyserver, it worked.didnt need sql either.
i am still testing the server, so i duno how well it works,but so far so good.now i have to find out how to run the game in full screen ,because my open setup dosnt work and alt+enter dosnt work either.and also to find out how to make the pallets i got work.
so thank you guys anyway.